Your Book is About What Exactly?! An Enlightened Review, if I do say so myself…

Hi guys! I hope everyone is safe and relatively happy this week.

I had a terrible dream this morning. I was walking in several feet of snow around a deep and wide body of water. I think it was a reservoir. It was freezing cold. I was bundled up in a thick down jacket, snow pants (yes, I know) and heavy boots. The sidewalk was higher than the lake and suddenly I slipped and fell in. Down, down I went into the icy water. I knew I was drowning. I actually said, “I’m dying.” I fought to remove my jacket but could not. The water was pulling me forever downward and I resigned myself to death. Obviously, I woke up (!), thankful I was on dry land. Whew. Still gives me chills but a slightly different perspective this morning, you know?

I also said a prayer for anyone who has suffered a terrifying experience. I hope you have not.

Okay, enough! Here’s some fun stuff. If you ever wondered what my book was about, click here. It’s a review by writer and author Phil Jason in a Florida newspaper. I like it! Hope you do, too.

The Visit Wizard Knows What Makes Great Guests and Hosts!

Have a safe, and dry, day!

Love,

Kathy

Industry News: Maybe e-Books Ain't All that After All; Winners and Losers

Reblogged from Florida Writers Conference Blog:

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A lot of people related to the publishing industry, including this august blogger, have taken it as an article of faith that at some point, the move from paper to electronic reading would hit a tipping point, and then everything would change. According to the Wall Street Journal, a set of recent studies is showing that assumption to be…

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Don't get me wrong writer and reader friends, all good books should be read, e-reader or not, but I am thrilled it seems the "real" book may not be going away any time soon! Sorry, but I just don't want to curl up in bed at night with a machine! Well, you know what I mean. Always enjoy your comments on the topic. Happy weekend. - Kathy

Yes, I’m Nagging. The ‘Thank You’ card! You knew it was coming!!

I entertained this holiday season. I know, duh. But my crown roast of pork had to be zapped in the microwave for the last 5 minutes (more on that later, as I hold the New York Times responsible) and so I was having a controlled melt-down in the kitchen on Christmas night, hustling to get the plates out before the stuffing became like wall paper paste. All 5 courses went fairly well, except for the main event. I was not a happy holiday host, although I faked it really well, and by the time the dessert wine was served I was well on my way to believing the accolades from my guests, or perhaps just not caring. (Not really. We always care. It just sounded good for me to fantasize for a moment that I did not.)

My guests, either because they realized my angst or read my book, did a very cool thing: they sent Thank You notes. Every single one. That’s right, my friends, the old fashioned kind that arrive in the mailbox as opposed to the inbox. Shocking, right?

The truth is that there are few people more dedicated to email for correspondence than me, to the point where I often don’t talk verbally to family members for months. I have one girlfriend to whom I have not spoken a word for several years, but we email each other a few times every week. I like it. It’s efficient, and I can collect my thoughts and zap one off quicker than I can find and hit the cell phone send button. But there are times when we should go beyond the standard, the easy, the everyday and here it is:

If you were a guest anytime this holiday or last night, and the food or party was great, and especially if it was not, take the time to tell your host “Thanks”. Yes, I know you did it as you were leaving, but it’s not the same. Until you actually FEEL a note in your hand from someone who cared enough to take the time and put on a stamp, you have not lived. Make one yourself if you’re creative, or buy some and keep in a drawer. The person who receives this special kindness will not only be impressed, but may get a tear in their eye thinking that they really did do a good job. And I hope in your hosting life you have either received one or will soon. It’s a special gift.

Guest Chpt 3

Love, and happy visiting. – Kathy

Visiting with your Pet? Four-legged or otherwise? A Cautionary Tail…

First, I don’t normally bombard my followers with daily posts, but come on! ‘Tis the season. Think of me as your holiday Visit Wizard. I promise you won’t hear from me much in January!

It occurs to me that some of you are going to be traveling with your four-legged family members. Yes, I have a chapter in my book for that.

BUT IT IS NOT A CHAPTER ON CORRECTING BAD PET—or human—behavior. There are animal and human behavioral experts for that. And, besides, we all know your pet is perfect just the way he is. So is mine. Visiting with pets can be either a fun, rewarding experience for all concerned . . . or it can be a disaster. Following these simple commands will mean less stress for you and your pet.

“No Begging!” Be Sure You’re Welcome

ALTHOUGH THIS SEEMS LOGICAL, MAKE SURE YOU ASK YOUR host if you can bring your pet, as far in advance of the trip as possible.

Don’t just assume that everyone loves Teddy, your Saint Bernard, or that Zelda will be “no problem.” Your host may have allergies or just not want an animal in the house. Always respect your host’s wishes and don’t “forget to ask” or assume that because Aunt Julie had a cat twenty years ago she would not mind you showing up with yours now. Besides, she forgot to tell you she has canaries…

“Speak!” Communicate with Your Host

TELL YOUR HOST IF THERE IS ANYTHING SPECIAL OR DIFFERENT about your pet that they should know before they agree and you happily dance with your little companion into their home. When you talk about cuddling “Rex” in your arms, they may be picturing a loveable little dog or cat, not your pet boa constrictor. Further, if you don’t know, ask if your host has any pets, or if other guests will be bringing pets. Rex might not get along so well with your nephew’s pet mice.

If your pet sleeps in your room at home, let your host know. It may or may not be okay during your visit. Your advance email to your host could go something like this: “George, Fluffy sleeps in my room at night. I am bringing her bed so she won’t be on your guest bed. Is that okay?” If it is not, and you know there will be howls or yowls through the night, you have two options: don’t bring her, or, prior to the trip, get her used to sleeping in another room without you.

“Ready!” Preparing Your Friend for Travel

OUR FURRY FRIENDS ARE SOMETIMES AN AFTERTHOUGHT when it comes to travel prep. We forget to give them a bath or trim their nails or brush their teeth or make sure their shots are up to date.

Bathe, brush, comb, and clip!

No matter how cute, no one wants a smelly or dirty critter in their home, so clip your pet’s claws for the sake of your host’s furniture and hardwood floors—not to mention their skin. Ouch!

Visit the vet to make sure your pet is current on all shots. Should some disaster strike, like a bite or an accident, or if you have to board while you are visiting, you will have that covered.

If lost or stolen. Make sure your pet has either a collar with identification tags with your home and cell phone number, or an identification microchip that a vet has put under the skin.

Do your research on where you are going. If your dog is used to playing with other dogs there may be a dog playgroup in the area. And please, know the local environment! I was truly horrified when people visiting another family let their dog swim in the lake behind our home. It had two resident alligators! The dog could have been pulled under quickly. I ran to the woman and told her, but even so it took some time to get the dog out.

Beware of bitches in heat.

No, I’m not talking about your sister going through menopause. You don’t want to be surprised a few months later because you let your little sweetie out to play with your friend’s unneutered male.

“Behave!” Mind Your (Pet’s) Manners

IS YOUR DOG A “COUNTER SURFER” OR WILL HE STEAL FOOD from the grill? Make sure your host knows and helps keep food safe! Does your cat love to lick the butter after the morning breakfast? Get it into the refrigerator pronto! If you know your dog gets overly excited or is shy with strangers,meet your hosts outside first. That way if there’s an“accident” it’s easily handled. If your pet has been out in the rain or playing in the mud, remember to wipe his paws before coming back inside. Ask your host for some old towels and a basket to store them in during use.

Are there some rooms that your host would prefer your pet not enter? Be respectful of their territory. If you know this in advance bring a child or pet gate if applicable for your pet. They may not have one and it will mean much less stress on you. Be especially mindful of the children. Little kids are curious and don’t understand the potential dangers any animal may pose. A friend told me that his dog is terrified by small children and will get aggressive out of fear. Definitely don’t take a dog to a home with children unless you are absolutely sure the dog is not only good with them, but can tolerate ears and tails being pulled and the occasional paw stepped upon.

“Wanna Go for a Ride?” On the Road

TRAVELING WITH YOUR PET BY AUTO CAN BE EITHER A JOY ride . . . or hell on wheels. It all depends on the right preparation by you (and a little cooperation from your passenger).

Safety First

Although we think we can text, talk, and drive at the same time,we can’t. Don’t let this be about you:

The police report began,

“She was last seen with what a witness says looked like a stuffed animal in the crook of her arm, administering blush with one hand, holding a cell phone in the other and steering with her knee, cigarette dangling from mouth.”

I used to hold my small dog in my lap as I drove. I shamefully admit it. I finally bought a wire cage with one side that opens, large enough for her to be comfortable in (turn around, lay down, stretch out) and fit in the back seat. I put a pillow in the bottom, a blanket in the winter, and she traveled for hours. Better for her, much safer for the driver!

All pets, including cats, should be kept in cages, crates, or carriers, never let to wander free in the car. It is recommended that the carrier be in the back seat and strapped in by a safety belt. This way the carrier will stay secure around sharp corners or if an accident should occur. A cage may be impractical if you have a very big dog. In that case, use a seat belt specifically made for dogs and have him in the back seat.

I know you think Fido loves to travel with his head out the car window but it’s really not a good idea. Flying debris can get into eyes and mouth causing serious injury and some dogs can actually topple out the window, either accidentally or when going after some irresistible thing outside.

That’s a long enough post. I try not to get too carried away (pun intended.) Hope you found these tips helpful for your holiday travel. If you want to get the book or give it as a gift, please go here. At $12 it makes the most awesome gift for any visitor, two or four-legged! I would also love for you to share your comments or questions, as always.

DSC_0042Thanks and happy visiting! – The Visit Wizard

Going Holiday Visiting? Things you should do!

Welcome!

Millions of us are going visiting this coming week. Here are some things you can do to make life easier:

1. Pack “considerately,” not “considerably.” Remember your host may not have the closet or drawer space for lots of clothes.
2. Email your hosts TODAY and let them know if you have any food allergies or if you have turned vegan! Better to do it now than sit down to dinner with a ham or beef.
3. Check the weather, and check with your hosts about any events or other things planned so you know how to pack and what to expect.
4.Get off the gadgets and into the visit! There are not many times when we can get together with those we love the most. Make it the best it can possibly be.

And most importantly have fun! If you have any questions or comments on visiting or hosting this holiday, please comment below.

Love and safe travels!  - The Visit Wizard

Let the Holiday Parties Begin!

126110_OriginalThe Party Season is On! Here are 6 simple reminders to make them great

1. Bring a host(ess) gift. I know I keep saying that. Expense is not the issue, taste is. If you want to know what to take email me and I’ll help you.

2. Don’t be shy. Mingle. Talk to people. You are interesting. Yes, you are! But first start the conversation by asking about the other persons interests or their take on something non-controversial. And no, asking what they think of the new administration or whether guns should be illegal is not a good place to start. 

3. Offer to help your host, but only ask once and do it sincerely. He or she may really need a hand with something and you will be considered a rock star from then on. There is many a time I have forgotten _______, or the roast in the oven was burning at the same time the door bell was ringing and the dog had to go out. You get the picture.

4. Engage everyone. See that guy standing in the corner, not sure what to do? Go talk to him. Bring him into your group. Besides. You never know who may be watching.

5. Know when to leave. Don’t be the last guest standing. And here is an elegant exit if it is a casual, informal party with friends or family: “It was a great party. Thanks so much for having us! Is there anything I can do before I go?” Of course the answer will be “no” but oh, so cool to ask.

6. Follow up. No matter how pleasantly hung-over (or not) you must follow up the next day with an email or thank-you note. Yes, you must. Seriously! It is just not that hard.

Read more about how to be the Life of the Party – in a good way – in an article for MSN.com. Great photos, too.

Happy partying! Please drink water and don’t drink and drive. I want to see you in the New Year.

And please do leave your comments on what you think hosts and guests should/should not do this holiday season. It helps us all have better times.

Love and happy visits, Kathy

The Holiday Table: Why White Plates are Fabulous! with Video!

 

In this interview for Daytime, I talk about “simple elegance” and it starts with white. If you are thinking about buying new dishes for this year’s celebrations think WHITE. Watch the video for my take on why.

Also, white lets you mix and match so nicely and goes oh so smoothly from day to evening! Would love your comments and/or your photos of your holiday place settings! Happy holidays, my friends!

Love, Kathy

Don’t forget my book makes the perfect hostess gift this party season. And less expensive than most bottles of wine. Go to Amazon to get it for $12! Click here!